The Bold Soul

Ah yes... I remember it well

Today, as I awaken, I think immediately back to one year ago and what I was doing. I was then waking up and realizing it was MY WEDDING DAY. Yes, it was ONE YEAR AGO TODAY that Georges and I got married! I remember everything about the day: how Georges and I were both giddy with happiness from the moment we woke up (none of that "can't see the bride on the wedding day" superstition for us), how we had so much fun with my family and his daughter getting ready for it all, how beautiful the house looked and how grateful I was that my sister and brother-in-law "gave" us their house for the entire event (she's so great at decorating that she could give Martha Stewart some lessons), how gorgeous my Georges looked in his suit with the lavender shirt and green tie to complement my green dress -- and the look on his face when he first saw me in that dress before the ceremony.

I remember greeting my friends, some of whom I hadn't seen in a while, and how happy I was they could be there to share in this huge moment in my life -- they'd shared so much with me already. I remember standing in front of the fireplace, filled with flowers, while my friend Laura performed the ceremony in both French and English, and how we were beaming the entire thing to Paris via webcam, to Georges' older son who wasn't able to be with us. I remember Laura passing Kleenex to both me and Georges as we laughed and cried our way through the entire thing (it's Laura's own fault; she asked us to tell her, in advance and secretly, what we loved about the other person -- and then read it out loud to the whole room). I remember saying "I do" and Georges saying, "Oui". I remember the rings. I remember the kiss.

And I remember the love overflowing in the room, from me to Georges, from Georges to me, from us to everyone in the room and back again.

Even now, even though I know without a shadow of a doubt that we were destined to be together, that somehow our souls CHOSE our respective paths in life that brought us both to Paris to meet each other on October 4, 2007 and later to the alter on July 12, 2008 -- I sometimes find it hard to believe I met him at all! That he fell in love with me. That he chose me. That he married me. That he sees things in me that I sometimes find hard to see in myself. That he finds me beautiful and graceful and sexy. That he believes in me and my ability to do amazing things with my talents. But he did, and he does. 

He is my miracle.

He makes me happier every single day of my life, since I met him, than I ever thought I could ever be. He makes me want to stretch myself and be all that I can be, for HIM as well as for myself. He gave me the opportunity to challenge myself through building relationships with his three children, whom I adore. He takes care of me, and he gives me the gift of being able to take care of him. Sometimes I wonder if I'm doing a good enough job at that latter part, because he's so amazing to me that I never want to take him for granted. He makes me feel like the most blessed, most wanted and most loved woman in the world.

So today, I just want him to know that I remember everything, from the moment he first saw me as I stepped off the #89 bus, to the moment he got down on one knee after having dropped the melon on the beach, to the look in his eyes as we took our vows -- and everything in between and since. Every smile. Every touch of his hand. Every look in his eyes that radiates his love. There's nothing else he needs to do, or say, or BE, in this life, other than exactly who he is... because who he is, is perfect for me and I love him.

Today as we retrace our steps to "Melon Beach" to spend the day there and have lunch in the same place we had lunch that day (and told the news to his sister and the Little Guy before calling the other kids), we'll remember together what it was like the day we decided to get married -- and I know Georges remembers it all, too. We aren't exchanging any store-bought gifts, either. What better gift could we possibly give each other today... than simply being together -- and remembering it well.

URGENT: Need a cat-sitter for 3 weeks in August in Paris

If you live in Paris and will be IN Paris during the first THREE weeks of August (August 1-23), we have a DESPERATE need for someone to take care of our cat, Clachat, during that time. All our "usual sources" will be out of town during the entire month of August and we've been unable to find someone. We also can't take her with us because we'll be staying with family who already have a cat and the two have been introduced before with fairly nasty results.

Obviously we'd still like to find a good permanent home for her and we're still open to discussing it if someone would love a healthy 9-year old cat (neutered). But in the short term we just need someone in August to feed her twice a day and clean out her "sand box" twice a week, and maybe pet her a little bit (assuming she'll let you). Possible to care for her in your home/apartment instead of ours, if that's easier for you; we'll even transport her along with all the necessities.

Please contact me ASAP if you would like to help us out with this: Lisa@LisaTaylorHuff.com or send me an SMS at 06.09.13.75.55 and I'll call you back (make sure to include your name and phone number in the email or SMS.

In lieu of this, if you know a good place to board a cat for 3 weeks in Paris, please send me that information. We'd like to avoid it because I don't like the idea of her being put in a cage for that amount of time, which is why we'd prefer home care in our home or yours.

First glimpse of the Med

Taken while on the TGV yesterday afternoon. We're in St. Raphael now... just got back from the BEACH. (Eat your hearts out, Parisians.)

A Glimpse of the Med from Lisa Taylor Huff on Vimeo.

Round 2

I've had several lovely, peaceful months without any French red tape whatsoever, after more than a year of constantly jumping through hoops. It's been wonderful not to worry about immigration issues for a while. Then, the other day, Georges reminded me that it's nearly time for me to start the process of renewing my Carte de Séjour, which is funny because it feels like I just got it -- which in a way, I did, receiving it in December even though I'd applied in August and the card was dated October. So tonight I dug out my folio of notes from the immigration classes I had to take in January and February. The powers that be had thoughtfully provided a sheet with a phone number printed in GREAT BIG TYPE, so that I could easily find the number to call to make the rendez-vous for my renewal. (Unlike last year when it was my first time around, I will not have to go without an appointment and wait in line for FOUR HOURS. Merci to the Préfecture for this!)

Then I noticed in smaller type on the same sheet, it said I could also go online to a web site to make the appointment. Ever eager to use the available technology (and thus avoid having to speak to the police on the phone in French), I decided to give it a try. After wandering around the site for some minutes on my own, and being unable to locate the right section for someone like me (i.e., spouse of a French citizen renewing a temporary card) I called in the reserves: Georges. He helped me find the right link to click (and believe me, they do not go out of their way to make it easy or obvious, but then why am I surprised? They stuck me in the "all other" category) and then walked through the little online form with me to make sure I entered everything correctly.

And lo! After entering the data from my existing Carte and a few additional items (Nationalité: Américaine), I was presented with a page listing the earliest available dates and times to choose for my appointment. They tell you to start the process three months in advance of the expiration date on your card and right now it's about 3 1/2 months before, so the earliest available appointments were the last few days of August and then going into early September. We decided to pick a day during the week AFTER the school rentrée so that there are not too many stressful things going on at once, and we picked a time (1pm) where Georges can easily be there from his job, since he MUST accompany me. I printed off the formal convocation plus a three page list of the documents I will need to bring with me (originals and copies) and it's pretty much what I had been lead to believe would be needed. (Of course, there is also the usual disclaimer stating they have the right to ask for ADDITIONAL documents if needed... that's the wild-card in all this, the bureaucratic ambush that so many foreigners encounter when trying to establish a life in France.)

So, we've made the appointment. Next week I will begin compiling a nice, new, and very FAT dossier of papers -- even more than they specified, especially when it comes to proving our "common married life" -- so that it's done and all ready to go before we take off for our August holidays. That way it will be one less thing to deal with at the end of the summer and sending the kids back to school.

This time around, I feel much calmer about it, much better prepared. Having gone through it once before, at least I'm a little bit familiar with how this will go, although I do have questions about what happens when I renew again next year (am I eligible for a 2 year, 3 year or 10 year card then? I have no idea). But I have no doubts about getting the card renewed -- we're married and they have no other basis on which to deny me -- and the worst thing that would probably happen is some delay in processing it because they want some other paper we don't have or because they just have a big administrative backlog, and if that happens and my existing card expires (end of October) I can probably get a temporary one, which is what they did last year for me.

I don't think the paperwork headache is over, though, nor will it ever be. Our next big challenge will be getting some qualified tax advice for me, as someone who does not work here in France but earns money in the U.S. via my business. There are all sorts of nasty complications and I'm pretty sure I'll end up filing tax returns in both countries and maybe even PAYING in both countries (I hope not) but one thing I do know: my days of using Turbo Tax to prepare my own taxes are finished. I plan to contact the embassy here to get a referral to a good tax accountant in Paris who knows the issues for Americans living here (the web site has a list somewhere).

I do think the worst is over, though, because the worst part of it all last year was the newness of it, the not knowing anything and having to figure it out on our own. Now that we have some real-world experience, it feels just a little bit easier this time.

Of course, I say that now. Talk to me again at end of October when I should have my renewed card, and we'll see if I'm still standing in the ring... or if the Préfecture has beaten me by a knock-out.

A Jet-Lag Haiku

Can't sleep when I want,
Sleep too much when I don't want:
Effing jet lag sucks.

It may not be very poetic, but I gotta call 'em like I see 'em.

Revolving door

Enfin, I am back in Paris! To say I'm overjoyed to be back is a huge understatement. I got the most wonderful welcome when I came into the courtyard, too. First, Georges started to walk towards me, and then the little boy next door shouted "LISA!" and then I heard our Little Guy asking "Elle est là?" and Georges confirming it. Well, I barely had a chance to throw myself into my husband's outstretched embrace when a small projectile came hurtling toward me and LEPT into my arms... and he wouldn't let go. It was all I could do NOT to tear up in front of him but my heart completely melted from the huge hug he gave me. (I was told later that he'd been asking every day for several days "When will she come?" How cool is THAT?) Especially since when I left I didn't think I'd be seeing him again until August but things just worked out nicely this way, that he happened to be here to spend a few precious hours with him before his vacation started. Lots more hugs and kisses all day... can't get enough of those from this adorable boy; he is truly his father's son, so affectionate and loving with people in his life, even his older siblings. When he wants a hug he has no trouble at all asking for one, and I think that's a wonderful quality. He even gives kisses to the little toddler next door, who adores the Little Guy like an additional older brother (which he already has) -- so cute!

And now, our youngest gone off for his July holidays with various family and friends, including lots of young cousins to play with; he'll have a great time. Our two older kids have taken off as well; the oldest left yesterday and will be gone at least three weeks if not longer, traveling with his girlfriend, and the girl left about an hour ago for most of the summer and our paths may not cross again until end of August. We'll have the Little Guy with us for all of August though, and we'll be hanging out at Georges' sister's place in Saint Raphael where we will indulge ourselves with lots of mini-golf, trips to various beaches, gelato, trips to the Fréjus Zoo and who knows what else. I loved beach vacations in New Jersey (where the beach is never called the beach but is called "The Shore", and where you never go to the beach, you go "down the shore") as a kid and although the feel of the beach towns here is different than in New Jersey, I still love being around a sandy plage and some salt water. It'll be wonderful. I foresee much building of sand castles and water-gun fights in my future.

But for the moment, Georges and I have a rare thing: several weeks completely alone, with the house all to ourselves (well, the cat's still here although if she doesn't manage to catch the MOUSE that surprised me when I opened the garbage can cabinet this morning, she's gonna be out on her tail PDQ). He's still working this month but we're taking a long weekend on Friday to visit his sister and also to celebrate our first wedding anniversary over on Melon Beach where we first decided to get married (well, officially decided since we'd actually been talking about marriage since 2 weeks after we met!) Then, next weekend it seems we're invited to visit Georges' good friend from university who lives in Caen with his family, so if that works out I'll finally get to visit the Normandy Beaches!

So this summer, it will feel a bit like having a revolving door in our house, with all of the comings and goings around here. But that's what summers are for... getting out of your routine weekly grind and being outdoors and out of town as much as possible. And I'll say one thing: the French have got it right, with this 5-6 weeks of vacation time a year. No one's in the mood to work much anyway at this time of year... we might as well enjoy life instead!

What are YOU doing this summer? Going on the road, or doing a "staycation" (i.e. staying at home for your vacation because the economy is so messed up)? Tell us your plans!

Making the best of it

So I'm still here at the family ranch (house) in New Jersey, until Sunday afternoon when the car arrives to take me to the airport -- and home to my wonderful husband and kids. I'm really glad I came back to help my mom and to see for myself that she is doing better than I could have hoped, even though she won't be driving again for at least a month and she's still dealing with a fair amount of pain. But she'll have my sister nearby to help out with cleaning, laundry and food shopping, and there's a physical therapist and home health aide who will also come until she can drive, so she's got lots of support. Thank you all for your good wishes and thoughts for my mother's recovery; they must have worked because right now I hear her out in the kitchen preparing her own breakfast and she couldn't do that when I first got here!

I admit that I really had mixed feelings about making this trip. Of course I was happy to be here for my mom and to give my sister a break for a while, but this trip was unplanned and therefore a disruption in my life. For one thing, I hated the idea of being away from Georges for such a long time, and that part hasn't been easy although a once or twice-daily Skype session helps. I will never like being away from my husband, even though sometimes it's necessary and perhaps even good for us to be briefly separated -- so that we can have the fun of reuniting again!

For another thing, I was concerned the trip would really prevent me from getting any serious work done on my SSP*, not to mention several client projects already in progress. Fortunately, being in Boring-town, NJ has actually been a little bit of an advantage because other than taking care of mom and doing a little local shopping, there is nothing else for me to do BUT work. So I've made some good progress on the SSP, finished one client project and made progress on another, all in the past week. Sometimes an enforced isolation is exactly what we need to get anything done!

My attitude this week has been "making the best of it". Sometimes things happen in life that we wouldn't necessarily choose if it were left up to us, but we have to cope with it and go forward. And in so doing, we have two choices: to be miserable about it and complain about it every step of the way, or to make the best of it and do our best in spite of the way things are. I always choose the latter, because not only does it give me more peace of mind but also because I generally accomplish more with that attitude than if I were sitting around feeling sorry for myself.

I was telling a coaching client, just the other day, that we always have the option of choosing how to feel about things. This came as a bit of a surprise to her at first, but she quickly saw what I was talking about. We are generally pre-conditioned to think that our emotions are things that just HAPPEN to us, and we have little control over our feelings. This isn't true. We have much more control than we think, and in fact the ONLY things we can really control in our lives are our own choices -- including choosing how to feel. So when something happens in your life that you wished hadn't happened, you can't change the event itself or the reactions of the other people involved, but you CAN decide for yourself how to feel and how to react.

And it is our choices which define us, more than anything else. So when a coworker at work ignores you or is rude to you, and you feel hurt, angry or insulted... you don't HAVE to feel that way. You have the choice to look at the other person and realize that their behavior says more about them and their state of mind than it says about you, and you can walk away and let it go. It's a choice to feel badly about it. When a pickpocket cleaned me out by stealing my wallet in Paris in 2001, I had a choice, too: panic and get hysterical and angry -- which would serve no useful purpose and wouldn't get me my wallet back -- or be calm and just deal with the aftermath. I chose the latter and everything turned out fine in the end and my 40th birthday trip wasn't ruined.

So when I knew I had to come back here, I knew what it would mean to my daily life, and although I wasn't thrilled about the disruption, I decided that what I could do was make the best of it and be happy anyway. If I had come here feeling resentful or stressed out, the week would have been a disaster and it wouldn't have helped my mom much to have me grumping around the house (she's been doing enough of that for both of us, but she's sort of got a good excuse right now: pain!) My work would have suffered, too, had I been sitting around here feeling sorry for myself because I miss Georges and because I hadn't been planning on a trip back so soon after my last one.

Before coming here, I had no idea what to expect in terms of my mother's health and how well she might be feeling or coping with pain and with getting around the house, so I had to be prepared for anything -- since that was the part I couldn't control. Choosing how I wanted to feel -- happy, at peace with the situation, and productive -- in advance of coming here helped me keep my emotional equilibrium and gave me a much better experience this week than I would have had otherwise. I took control over the one thing I COULD control -- ME! -- and let the rest unfold naturally without resisting it.

If you have never thought about being able to choose your emotions and feelings, think about it now. Is there something going on in your life right now that you're feeling badly about (angry, sad, frustrated, scared) where, if you were able to shift your feelings to something more positive, it would make a huge difference in how you are experiencing the event itself? Remember: we can't change events once they've happened, all we can change is how we feel and react to said events. So how would shifting your feelings and reaction change the outcome for you? How would it help if you were simply to make the best of it?

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Bored is good... sometimes

I warn you now: this is going to be a boring post.

It's early morning, Joisey time. Jet lag keeps waking me at 6:30-ish every day. Which really isn't so bad as it will make it easier going back to Paris if I'm not sleeping until 2pm Paris time.

My mother is doing remarkably well. With a major surgery, like knee replacements (doubles!), it's impossible to predict in advance how well a patient will handle the pain, discomfort and difficulties, and my mother is a retired RN and sometimes medical people make the worst patients. But I'm really proud of her because I know she's sometimes in a lot of pain but she's doing what she needs to do anyway. Like daily exercises on her own, several times a day. This week (starting today) she has a new home physical therapist coming and I think that will accelerate her recovery even more. She needs more strength in her legs before it's safe to give up the walker -- although yesterday she walked from her bedroom all the way down the hall WITHOUT IT, just bracing her hand along the wall as she walked, and she didn't even realize what she'd done until I screeched: "WHERE IS YOUR WALKER?" The look on her face was comical and just showed that she is starting to get stronger. But she's not ready to dance the lambada quite yet so she needs to be more prudent. There is also a home health aide coming, a very nice woman, twice a week to help her with taking a shower and she does some light cleaning as well.

My roles in all this are as follows: chauffeur (for two doctor appointments this week), errand-runner, food-shopper, lottery-ticket-buyer, medication-picker-upper, laundry-doer, meal-preparer, pill-supervisor, and also the entertainment committee. I had a little time yesterday to go out and do some clothes shopping while the health aide was here, and Thursday I plan to visit a good friend who is recovering from breast cancer surgery. But as busy as all that sounds, it actually doesn't seem to take up all that much time, really. And so... I've been bored.

But there are times when being bored is a good thing. I've been leveraging my boredom to really immerse myself in my Secret Summer Project in my business and it's going VERY well so far, although there is still so much to be done and I just can't seem to get it all done fast enough! I suspect that if I were back in Paris I would not be making such good progress so I want to take full advantage of being virtually trapped in North Jersey to crank out as much quality material as I can (you'll thank me later -- if the SSP ends up being of interest to you, I mean).

Therefore I'm rather grateful for the boredom. I seem to have really kicked the American TV addiction during my time in France, and I'm watching only marginally more TV here than I do there -- for one thing, every channel seems to be talking about Michael Jackson and to be honest, while I enjoyed his music when I was younger, I didn't feel that "bond" that so many people seemed to feel (he was just too bizarre for me, I guess) and I'm just over it already. I do feel badly for his children and I hope they'll be well with their grandmother. But the world moves on and life goes on and I've got better things to do with my time than sit glued to the over-saturated American TV media.

So it's just about filling the downtime with my work. And because I'm excited about the project, it doesn't feel like "work" at all. Bring on the boredom! The more, the better!

And now... time to make the morning coffee.

The hardest part of living abroad

Damn it. In 24 hours I will be on the RER-B headed toward the airport. I'm going to the States - again. My mother recently had double knee replacement surgery and will need someone to stay with her while she gets back on her feet, literally. My sister, who lives nearby, has been taking care of our mom through this process the past few weeks and I need to come home and give her some much-deserved time off. My mother sort of decided at the last minute that she wanted her "French" daughter to be around, too, and so she gifted me the airfare. I'm glad to be able to go there and be supportive of my mom, and I'm especially glad that my freelance working life allows me to just go when I need to go without having ask some boss for the time off.

But it comes at a price, this "free" trip. I also have to be apart from the person I love the most in the world in order to be with other people I love a whole lot.

This is the hardest part of living abroad. It's the part you don't really want to think about when you're making the decision to move across an ocean, the part where you will be far away from people you love. And that maybe, just maybe, you won't always be able to be there when they need you most. Of course I knew this was a factor given my own age when I came here (45) and my mother's advancing age. I knew that by leaving, I'd be in effect dumping all future direct elder care issues on my sister because it's not like I can hop in the car and drive over there on a moment's notice. And I have to live with the knowledge that some day, my mother will pass over, and I may or may not get the chance to be there at the end. These are things over which I have no control, and although it makes me sad to think of it, I have to remind myself that I'm doing the best I can.

For the moment, though, my mom is okay and came home yesterday from the rehab place (Sis is staying with her until I get there and she's done a great job of organizing all the after-care nursing and therapy) so on this trip, at least, I am not dealing with a worst-case scenario, for which I am very grateful. What I AM dealing with, however, is a bit of guilt over the mixed feelings I am having about the whole thing. While I'm glad I'm in a position to go there and help, I also hate leaving my wonderful husband for so long (11 days) and I will also miss the kids who are on the verge of being done with school and going off to their summer holidays; after tomorrow morning I won't even see the Little Guy until August! 

So for the next 11 days, my heart will be split in two directions. Half of it will be glad I'm with my mom because I know she really needs me, the other half will be aching to come home to Georges. Half of me will be happy I can be a good daughter, the other half would much rather go back to being a wife again. The bottom line is, I'm torn between my old life and my new life. In my new life, I'm happier. I'm well in my skin, as we say, and I'm able to be my true self. In my old life, I'm happy to see people I love (although I'm actually going to miss seeing my best friend this time as she'll be away on her family vacation) and to stay connected to my past, but every moment I'm there, I'm thinking about how I'd rather be HERE.

It is what it is, of course. This is part of the choice you make when you decide to move far away from your roots, even if all your reasons for moving are the "right" ones. I knew what I was getting into when I came here, and then when I fell in love with Georges I knew what it meant to my family life back home. There's no "solution" other than to accept it, do the best I can, and try to be happy in the moment on whichever side of the ocean I'm on.

But it still sucks. The wishbone never wins. I'm just saying.

A House + Studio 4 Sale in Paris 18th! (and it's OURS)

BIG NEWS (and no, it's not about my SSP): for various reasons too numerous (and personal) to mention, our* house in Paris is for sale! Not only that, with the house comes a HUGE atelier/studio with storage box!

I know what you're thinking: OH MY GOD! WOW! WHAT THE HELL? and HEY, I'D LOVE A HOUSE IN PARIS, WHERE CAN I GET MORE INFORMATION?

We've got a web site with a full description (French and English) and numerous photos. For obvious reasons, we don't list the actual address but it's in a nice and diverse neighborhood in the 18th with easy access to transportation, shops, schools and so on. You've seen my walking tour photos of the area so you know I'm within walking distance of the Butte and Sacre Coeur as well as Pigalle, Place de Clichy, and the Marché aux Puces. We like this area a lot.

Please help us get the word out, if you feel so inclined and happen to know someone who is looking for something unique in Paris! We do ask that SERIOUS BUYERS ONLY request more information using the email on the other website.

I'm sure that this announcement raises all sorts of questions (like "Why?"), most of which I'm not going to answer. But I'll just say this in order to quench some of the natural curiosity. We're not leaving Paris and not even leaving the neighborhood. There's no rush to sell. Sometimes, moving is just moving.

Oh, and by the way. Clachat has informed us that she has no desire to change houses, and she's not moving with us to our new place when we finally DO move. Cats can be so stubborn at times. So if you buy the house and would like a 5 euro discount, we'll be happy to throw the cat into the deal.

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* Just to be clear, I am not the owner of the house or atelier and am not personally involved in the transaction.

Summer Secrets

Summer is now officially here (or very nearly, depending on what day you're reading this) -- although you might not notice it if you're in Paris because the weather has been cool and unpredictable as usual. Still, summer is summer and I'm getting into the summertime frame of mind. Our three kids are doing the usual end-of-year stuff like finishing special projects (the oldest), taking very important exams (the girl), and participating in year-end events like a school play (un spectacle as it's called here) for which we are making things like a crown and sabre (the Little Guy is playing a prince). Then it's summer vacances for two months for the kids -- and all three are going different places and doing different things -- and a mix of work, family and vacations for us, as well. Plus our first wedding anniversary falls on July 12th -- but then we treat every day like it's a special romantic day (we are, however, making a weekend pilgrammage to Melon Beach to celebrate where it all began).

I look forward to summer for two reasons, neither of which has to do with the urge to bake myself on a beach even though I love being sea-side. First, I love the relaxed feeling I get in the summer months, and who doesn't need to feel more relaxed, right? But mainly I like summer because I get VERY creative in the summer months. It's like the summer brings out the innovator in me, the true entrepreneur. I start getting ideas for special projects, for new ways to reach out to more people and perhaps make a difference in someone's life. Eventually, I narrow it down to one special summer project, something that excites and motivates me, which I then work on steadily and SECRETLY throughout July and August, preparing to let "it" break free in September (or October at the latest). Maybe it's that "back to school" thing but September has always felt like a time for a fresh start, even more so than the 1st of January.

So I'm excited at the arrival of summer because this year, I've got a whopper of an idea for a project, and it's my biggest, best and most innovative idea yet! I am itching to dig in and get started, because I have long wanted to do something on this level, to find a way to reach out to more people and be of service by using what I know and what I have to share -- and now I have the perfect opportunity, plan and strategy to do exactly that!

Are you cringing at the thought of taking on a a "project" for the summer? You might believe that a Secret Summer Project could end up being just another stress-filled item on your "To Do" list, when summer is the time when you want to take time OFF from the pressure of the To-Do's. But actually it's quite the opposite. When you are working on something or towards something that excites, energizes and inspires you, it doesn't feel like work at all. In fact, you often can't wait until you've got some time to work on it! Of course, it's important to take breaks from your regular work/life routine; your kids might be off school and you need to spend time with your family, and you need to recharge your own batteries with a bit of down-time. But it's the break from routine that can free up your mind to go in new directions. Just as you sometimes get your best ideas or solutions to problems while your brain is relaxed from sleeping, so you can find inspiration for your special project while hiking in the mountains, visiting a far-off land you've always dreamed about, or even sitting on the deck by the pool in your own backyard.

The secrecy part of this project is important because when you're up to something new, different and BIG, it's never a good idea to tell too many people. Number one, someone might steal your idea; sad, but true. Number two, although it's good to tell maybe one or two people whom you know you can trust to be unconditionally supportive of you (I've told Georges and just two others besides), beyond that if you tell too many people you'll get the Negative Nellies hovering around you, telling you why your idea is bad or wrong or stupid or won't work. And who needs THAT? Better to keep it close to the vest until you're ready to go public with it.

And this year, my secret summer project is probably the biggest thing I've ever contemplated doing as a solopreneur. It will require, on my part, an investment of my ideas, my creative energy, and every ounce of faith I've got to pull it off. I can't say much at the moment about the details other than to say that what inspired me was YOU. You, the Bold Soul readers who have written to me and commented so often to let me know that what I've done/am doing has been inspiring to you in some way. I have been moved and humbled by your stories and it's made me want to do more to help other people live more boldly and create the kind of lives or careers or businesses they really want.

So for the moment, all I can say is my Secret Summer Project is well underway and I'm so excited I can't see straight sometimes! When it's ready to roll there will be a major announcement here, but if you want more frequent progress reports on how it's going (and some sneek previews perhaps?), I will be posting those via Twitter or my Facebook Fan* page so sign up on one or the other (or both!) to get the SECRET inside scoop!

Meanwhile, let me float this question for all of you: What will YOUR Secret Summer Project be this year? What will inspire you? What will motivate you to change something in your life? What do you need to clear out, let go of once and for all, or start doing on a regular basis that will dramatically shift something in your life, relationships, job or business by September 1st? What will make you feel lighter, healthier, more at peace, more energized, happier with who you are? What will allow you to finally BE the bold soul you KNOW you're destined to be?

Whatever the answer is? THAT is your Secret Summer Project. So stop putting it off and hiding behind your "to do" list and all the little things you tell yourself are so important. What's more important than being your best self? Go do it!

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*Although I really appreciate Facebook Friend requests, I reserve my "friend" page for personal communications with people in my private life, and the "fan" page is for staying connected to blog readers and fans of my writing and coaching work. So if you ask to "friend" me on Facebook, I'll be happy to redirect you to the Fan page instead.

Snippets

Yeah, I know, I know... too long since last post. (At least I know that's what Georges is thinking.) In between, well, LIFE I've been thinking about new material but then the LIFE part got in the way a bit. So to catch you all up, here's what's been going on:

• My mother had double knee replacement surgery back home in New Jersey last Thursday. About five days before that, she suddenly decided she would feel better if I came back there and she's be willing to pay for the ticket, and how do you say no to your mother under those conditions? Well, you can't. So several days of scrambling to figure out what dates would work to coordinate with my sister's own after-care-for-Mom efforts, what flights were available, and at what prices led to me booking a 11-day trip AWAY FROM GEORGES to stay with my mother when she gets out of the therapy rehab place. I'm happy to be able to be there for her and to give my sister a much needed break, but not one bit happy about being apart from my husband for that long. Mom's surgery went well although she did have a rough 2 days afterward (the pain meds didn't agree with her) but she's moved to the rehab and they've had her up and walking, and I'll bet it hurts like hell. She's a trooper, our mom! I am hopeful this surgery will give her such good results that before long she'll be willing to get on a plane and come visit us in Paris! 
• My twice-weekly English tutoring with my young friend (13-year-old daughter of Georges' friend) has gone well and she brought her grades up well enough to satisfy the teacher and both her parents. We'll continue this week and next and then take a summer break, and resume in the fall which I'm happy about. After all, we have only just started reading "Little House on the Prairie" together! If anyone knows of someone who would like some English tutoring here in Paris, feel free to hook us up; I promise not to make them read "Little House" if that's not their tasse de thé.
• Work, work, work! After a couple of months with virtually no new projects coming in (and therefore no income, either), things have suddenly turned around and I have a flurry of requests from repeat customers who want to work with me again, plus a few new clients as well. Despite my resolve to retire from web design, a few former clients needed some help and I needed the work, and fortunately they're all people I really loved working with the first time. Juggling all of this is keeping me very busy, especially as I am trying to finish some of these projects before I go to New Jersey next Friday.
• Family life has been keeping me busy as well. On the days/weekends when we have the Little Guy with us, there's a set routine to be kept and I have my role as well. This weekend he announced out of the blue that he'd never been to the Arc de Triomphe before, and he wanted to go. I'd never been there either, even after nearly three years here, and Georges couldn't remember when he'd last gone there. So Sunday morning, off we trooped like good little tourists (in fact, the guy at the ticket booth was surprised to hear Georges speaking to him in French!) We lucked out and the line was non-existent (go in the mornings apparently because the lines for tickets get longer as the day goes on). And up we climbed. And climbed. (And stopped for breath -- never mind how many times.) And climbed. They very thoughtfully put padded benches at the top of the spiral staircases for tired climbers to collapse upon before they die recover. And you're still inside the monument at that point where there's a rather interesting display/gift shop area where you can also see the view of what is directly below you via a camera (the eternal flame and all the tourists). Then a few MORE stairs (you can imagine my delight in seeing them) got us to the roof for a lovely 360-degree view of Paris. Photos will follow soon as I have time to get them out of the camera. 
• I am working on a new idea for my business which I can't really say much about at the moment but which I'm rather excited about. More on that in a few weeks, I think.
• And I'm still NOT pregnant. [sigh] Very much not. Disappointed about that, of course, but nothing I can really do other than accept what is and know that I am still married to the most wonderful man in the world, and if we're meant to be blessed with a baby then it will happen anyway. Perhaps when we least expect it although I had sort of hoped it would be before I'm 50! I would appreciate it, though, if my body would STOP sending me symptoms and signals that could indicate pregnancy but which also appear to be some sort of odd PMS stuff. It's no fair for my hormones to fool with my expectations in this way!

So there you have it... life at the Bold Soul's place. How's life at YOUR place?

Clach-achmed, the Cat Terrorist

A few days ago, I realized that we are living with the feline version of Achmed, the Dead Terrorist:

Clacha, our resident Jekyll-and-Hyde Psycho Cat, frequently sits under the kitchen table, plotting her next terrorist attack on the legs of whomever happens to be walking innocently by.

"I KEEL YOU!" -- that's her M.O.

When she screeches in the morning or evening (7am and 6pm on the dot!) to be fed, we know she is saying "Hurry up, Infidel... or I KEEL YOU!"

When she races out of the kitchen window or front door to viciously chase our gardienne's dog, Lady, down the courtyard, she is clearly trying to chase the occupying forces out of her "country". "Go home or I KEEL YOUUUUU!"

And those little "surprises" she leaves on the floor -- the dead rodents or birds, the vomit, or the little cat poos she kicks out of her box -- are the kitty equivalent of a terrorist bomb because you never know when one will strike. After which, she has such a self-satisfied expression on her face, I know she's laughing maniacally in her little kitty head: "Bwah-ha-ha... I KEEEEEL YOU!!!!!!!!!"

Her terror campaign is fairly effective. The little kids won't touch her -- even the 2-year old next door has learned to steer clear of her. The teens either ignore her, or bait her to make her mad, but being teens they are naturally more apt to take unnecessary risks and it's only a matter of time before she leaves visible scars on their hands or feet to match the ones on my own. I've taken to checking where she is hiding before venturing to walk across my own living room floor, because she could be ANYWHERE, waiting to pounce. Even Georges has started to wait to get out of bed until after I've fed her (but that's sort of OK because then HE has to be the one to clean the cat box).

It's perfectly obvious to us that this cat came from one of those terrorist training camps we're always hearing about in the news. Who knew they were using cats as their new secret weapon of mass destruction? Who needs a suicide bomber when you can plant a highly trained psychotic cat in every home? I'm far more afraid of this cat sometimes than I am of anything I see about Al Quaeda on the news.

Punchline

Once, there was once a snail who was tired of being slow.

He went out and bought himself a really fast sports car...

 

... and asked the dealer to paint a big "S" on the top of it.

When the car dealer asked the snail why he wanted the big "S" on the car, the snail said:

Because when I whizz by them, I want people to say:

Hey, look at that S CAR GO!

Photos of this lovely French escargot taken two nights ago when we discovered him climbing up our glass front door, and how interesting is it to see the UNDERSIDE of a snail in (slow) motion? Not really sure where he thought he was going, but he obviously thought better of "up" because he did that U-turn and headed back to terra firma. We seem to have a few of these big snails in our courtyard plants (fortunately not like the masses of these little white ones Linda has been getting in her Provençal garden every year), and the kids in the building love hunting for them. Don't know if they're the edible kind, so I'll stick to having my escargots in a restaurant with garlic, oil and pesto.

On this day, 1945

This afternoon, I have been watching (via TV) the D-Day ceremonies being held at the American Cemetery just off Omaha Beach in Normandy. President Obama is there, along with Prince Charles and Gordon Brown of the U.K. and Stephen Harper of Canada, hosted by France's Nicholas Sarkozy.

I decided to use Twitter to capture my impressions as the event was unfolding. I realize that watching it on television can't compare with being there, but I must admit I got rather choked up when I saw all the crosses (and stars) on the graves, and listening to some of the speeches. Rather than writing more here about what I witnessed, instead I decided to just reprint my Tweets (along with a few cross-Tweets with a friend who is actually THERE) without additional commentary:

I'm watching the 65th D-Day ceremonies on TV. Saw Sarko and Obama together. Obama's official US helicopter landing at cemetery now.

Very moving to see so many of the D-Day vets there, in full uniform, some in wheelchairs, many smiling and laughing and even dancing!

Obama about to depart the helicopter...oh, there's Michelle... and the Prez!

She's wearing a white coat-dress with a silver belt. Elegant as usual. They are a truly striking-looking couple.

But WHY isn't BBC or CNN carrying this so I can hear it in English? I'm watching on the French TF1...

1st couple met and embraced by some veterans... American on French TV speaking badly accented French. Secret Service everywhere.

They're playing such great 1940's-era music at the ceremonies while waiting for the 2 presidents and Prince Charles to arrive. Gotta love it

Totally wishing I were in Normandy today for this. Will really need to get up there and visit the American Cemetery and D-day sites soon.

Some Americans think the French don't remember what America has done to ensure France's freedom. Not true... esp. in Normandy.

Military band playing medley: Anchors Away, Halls of Montezuma...

... When the Caissons go Rolling Along... (taking me back to school days when we learned these songs)

The Obamas are coming to Paris tonight... going to Notre Dame, then some kind of official dinner, and then to the Centre Pompidou.

I think the daughters are here with their parents as well. Good "educational" trip for them to visit Paris, even if they miss school.

A very sad and moving sight... all those white crosses on the perfectly manicured lawn at the American Cemetery... rows and rows of them.

TV just said that 10,000 soldiers are buried there. TEN THOUSAND.

OK, a live feed available via France 24 here: http://bit.ly/ApatS

And CNN has some kind of live feed also: www.cnn.com and click the link on the Live Developing Story link. It looks to be delayed slightly

First ladies Michelle and Carla escorting/escorted by some elderly vets. Very sweet. Prince Charles, Gordon Brown & Canada's Harper there 2

Wow... the Dalai Lama is also in Paris today, unrelated to Obama's visit and D-Day. Will be hard getting around town tonight I think.

Now the 4 national anthems will be played and sung by a French choir, starting with the Marseillaise (bien sur)

And now the Star Spangled Banner... I'm standing.

Nice to see that Obama knows the words (it's astonishing how many Americans do NOT know the words!)

@k_sam Are you actually at the cemetery and ceremonies? Where are you now?

Sarkozy to Obama and the audience: "France will never forget"

Wishing these commentators would stop talking over Stephen Harper. Let the man speak and stop editorializing!

Ah, much better on BBC news... now Gordon Brown speaking.

k_sam@TheBoldSoul yep, I am sitting in the audience.

I'm rather liking Gordon Brown's tribute... considering what's going on in his government this week, nice that he can be there

But wow, Prince Charles has AGED. I still picture him in my mind as the younger man he was when he and Diana got married.

Obama: "One word will still bring forth the pride of men and women... D-Day"

"When the ships landed at Omaha, the men went into an unimaginable hell..."

"By the end of the day, against all odds, the ground on which we stand was free once more..."

I like watching the faces of the veterans in the audience. THAT is where the history still lives.

Obama speaks of a veteran who visited the cemetery one last time last night... and then passed away in his sleep. God bless.